Thursday, May 10, 2007
my parent's sex life
Last night my mom and I had dinner, just us. Kids were with Missy and my father had left.
One of the gifts of this health and housing crisis is that I have had conversations with my mother. I have had more in the last month thanI had in the last 10 years. For some reason she is able to hear me better or maybe I am trying more. Also with her dementia we can have a conversation and five minutes later have the same one again. So we are not running out of things to talk about. I think I had felt like I had lost her a long time ago and now I feel like we do have a relationship again. A blessing.
So whenever it is just us at dinner the conversation always goes to a certain subject ... she talks to me about her sex life. Yes at 88 and 86 they still do it. I have known for years and she is usually quite graphic like how her hips give out so she needs a pillow. ick.
Now it goes from my father wants it but she could take it or leave it. To last night where she says she wants it more than my father. It sometimes even changes during the meal.
She is consistent in that it is always up to her and my father doesn't force her. I guess that is a key to 60 years of marriage. Missy stopped sleeping with me pretty much after our first year together was very cruel with her reasoning.
Anyhoo, at least someone is getting some. I hope they can resume whatever it is they do, if they do and this is not an old memory and I am glad they will not be doing it under my roof as of today.
One of the gifts of this health and housing crisis is that I have had conversations with my mother. I have had more in the last month thanI had in the last 10 years. For some reason she is able to hear me better or maybe I am trying more. Also with her dementia we can have a conversation and five minutes later have the same one again. So we are not running out of things to talk about. I think I had felt like I had lost her a long time ago and now I feel like we do have a relationship again. A blessing.
So whenever it is just us at dinner the conversation always goes to a certain subject ... she talks to me about her sex life. Yes at 88 and 86 they still do it. I have known for years and she is usually quite graphic like how her hips give out so she needs a pillow. ick.
Now it goes from my father wants it but she could take it or leave it. To last night where she says she wants it more than my father. It sometimes even changes during the meal.
She is consistent in that it is always up to her and my father doesn't force her. I guess that is a key to 60 years of marriage. Missy stopped sleeping with me pretty much after our first year together was very cruel with her reasoning.
Anyhoo, at least someone is getting some. I hope they can resume whatever it is they do, if they do and this is not an old memory and I am glad they will not be doing it under my roof as of today.
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